Here is a friendship story which is somewhat similar to what happens mostly in our society. In real life, can a boy and a girl be best friends without getting falling in love? This is our question of discussion.
Let’s begin with four different assumptions:
Assumption 1: Boy and girl are best friends. They share, laugh, cry, abuse, eat and do everything possible together. Boy falls for the girl. For the girl, he is nothing more than a friend, and she makes it clear that “he loves him like a friend” but is not “in love” with him. Heartbroken boy tries to persuade her, and in the process, the girl is wooed. They are now in love with each other. They live happily ever after.
Assumption 2: Boy and girl are best friends. They share, laugh, cry, abuse, eat and do everything possible together. Over the course of time, girl falls in love with the boy. The boy does not want to do anything to jeopardize the friendship by getting into a relationship. The boy gives the girl time to recover. In the process, the friendship is ruined; they don’t talk to each other anymore.
Assumption 3: Boy and girl are best friends. Boy and girl spend quality time together. They are each other’s to-go-to person, cry buddy, shopping buddy. They are often teased for being “cute together,” but they don’t take it seriously. Eventually, they confess about their love for each other. They get together.
Assumption 4: Boy and girl are best friends. They do everything together. They are the old buddies. Even after so many fights, they find each other to seek comfort but never cross the line. Yes, there is a line. They are each other’s rant buddies. They love each other, but their romantic interests lie somewhere else. Friendship for them is close to the heart. And they live by that.
So coming back to the question: Can a girl and a boy be best friends without falling in love with each other?
In the first three assumptions, a girl and a boy has been shown fallen in love and then shown three different situations. We need to understand all these four types of cases that it's not necessary that people of opposite gender fall in love with each other like in situation 4. We think every girl and a boy will fall for one another with time in a friendship because of our rigid societal believes, in the past that a man and a woman cannot be related in any other way than romantically. The question of gender plays a crucial role.
The thought of falling in love with your old best friend is the basis of romance novels and even fairy tales. They make us think that this can happen in real also, but our life is not a fairytale. A best friend of the opposite gender really can be a best friend and nothing more.
I am a men and all my life I have been good friends with women more than I have with men. My best friend is a sweetheart I have known for six years now. We have never dated each other, we never “fell in love” with each other, she had his share of boyfriend, and I had a few girlfriends too. But we have been friends as far as I can remember.
The success of these friendships is dependent on how well both people communicate and respect one another. Healthy guy-girl friendships need to have barriers that girl-girl and guy-guy friendships do not cross. The comfort zone recognizes this barrier that neither friend in the friendship is allowed to violate.
So to conclude, men and women can be friends, as long as there is no lasting romantic interest. Remember, it doesn’t mean we’re meant to be lovers or soul mates if we talk to someone of the opposite gender about our pasts, presents, and futures. Deep love comes in different forms, including friendships.
In opposite-sex friendships, we want someone we can have a conversation with, and to feel a connection without worrying about catching feelings or awkward moments. For the sake of male-female platonic friendships, if we don’t let our sexual desire come in between us, it could be a beautiful thing.
Author: Malik Noureed Awan
A politician is someone who participates in how the country is run. He or she usually is part of a political party which is a group that shares similar beliefs about the country’s welfare. The political system of a nation is an essential sign of what it is like to live there. Some methods work well, and public services such as health and education are excellent. In other countries, corruption or inefficiency leads to poor services.
What is Dirty Politics?
Dirty Politics means when politicians do not use proper tactics against their opposition. This could include using the media, not being honest and also getting other people to expose information about other people.
Politician’s real faces
All the politicians take votes in the name of poverty, development, education, health, providing essential amenities to citizens, inflation, etc. but never take appropriate measures to solve these problems. The entire politicians have close and secure connections with policemen, business/corporate houses, judges, and media. Off camera all have a good friendship with MNCs (Multinational companies), and they run media houses. There are many times internal understanding or compromises between some political parties also happen. Party in opposition will always shout loud about their promises but as soon as they are in power they forget pledges and when reminded of promises cover up their failures with some other achievements.
Dirty Politics in Pakistan
Pakistan is facing a difficult time, poverty is at peak, and inflation is rising you can say that Pakistan is almost finished. Finance Minister Shaukat Tareen resigned due to the worst economic condition. All Pakistani and the next coming generations are in heavy debt what is the solution to all the problems and what are the causes of Pakistan worst situation.
It is all happening because of the dirty political system of Pakistan. Lack of honest and sincere leaders in the politics contributes to the worst condition of Pakistan. For the progress of any country the critical thing is sincere government at least sincere with the state and its nation, but unfortunately, Pakistan is such a country which is lack of sincere people in its politics.
Pakistan politics is said to be called the dirty politics in which corrupt people get elected and become the leaders of the state. Foreign involvement in Pakistan politics has proved that Pakistan is being ruled by so-called puppet government who are begging in front of so-called superpowers and getting money in the name of Aid. All aid is going in personal accounts of our so-called government officials.
Dirty politics of Pakistan is playing a most critical factor in destabilizing our country and we the citizens’ are equally responsible for whatever happens in Pakistan because we are doing nothing. We need to think before we elect a politician with good qualities.
Qualities in Politician
Deciding which candidate to vote for the country is merely a matter of party affiliation for a lot of people. However, other people cast their votes based on characteristics they should look for in their candidate of choice. So what should be the qualities or characteristics good politician should possess? Here are the top attributes of some of the world’s most successful politicians:
Honesty makes the character and builds credibility and trust, which are the foundation to evoke confidence and respect from those around you. It reveals who we are and discloses our mistakes, which gives others the opportunity to criticize or reject openly.
Real compassion is a characteristic that converts knowledge to wisdom. Good political leaders use empathy to see the needs of those he or she leads and to determine the course of action that would be of most significant benefit to all those involved.
It’s a vital characteristic for politicians. Political leaders who possess sincerity can be trusted because he or she never go against inner values, even if it is benefiting them to do so. A leader must have the trust of his followers. This requires the highest standard of integrity.
Confidence is about having faith or belief in a political leader that he or she will act in a proper, or effective way. A good politician needs to be confident in himself or herself and should have the ability to lead. Leaders who possess this quality inspire others,
A political leader is about understanding the give-and-take aspects of politics, and the ability to find common ground. This characteristic allows political leaders to recognize setbacks and criticism, to learn from them and move forward.
Great Political Leaders
They should have all of these qualities and more. Each aspires to respect different views, analyze problems, and identify the best solutions not based on loyalty to a political party but somewhat based on what is good and right and in the best interest of the country as a whole. Its high time now that honest people should step up, and these corrupt people should be thrown out from our country. In this way, only Pakistan will progress and will be saved otherwise survival of Pakistan is at stake.
Author: Malik Noureed Awan